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Heather Locklear’s Struggle To Become An Inner Architect Of Change: Claiming Your New Life And How To Do It

Heather Locklear was America’s sweetheart at one time in her life. The creator of a superstar career on TV with a long running collaboration with mega TV producer Aaron Spelling, Locklear’s credits include the highly successful Dynasty, TJ Hooker, and super soap Melrose Place. Her popularity was so powerful that Spelling cast her in both TJ Hooker and Dynasty at the same time.

Whether playing a cop, a vixen, or a corporate exec in her role on “Spin City”, Heather seemed at ease with change and adapting to anything thrown at her.

Sadly as recently as March of this year stories began to surface about Locklear’s battle with anxiety and depression.

Culmination of a Battle

Heather recently checked herself into an unnamed Arizona “rehab” center for depression and anxiety. According to sources close to the actress she “requested an in-depth evaluation of her medication and entered into a medical facility for proper diagnosis and treatment.”

“. . . she has had a rough year. . . she decided to heed doctors’ orders and re-evaluate her medical condition at an in-patient treatment facility.”

“She wanted to feel better and get to the bottom of what was troubling her” according to People.com sources

Statement of Support

In the most heartfelt statement of support, former co-star and new boyfriend Jack Wagner:

“Anyone who has the courage to seek help in order to live a healthy life gets my support 110 percent.”

“Considering Change”

In making the decision that she could not live her current life, Heather Locklear began the journey of becoming an inner architect. She applied Susan Hanshaw’s Phase 1’s “Recognize your choices” as her first step to reaching out for help

“Moving into Your New Life”

As Heather heals and begins to step into her new life she will come to the realization that it is not going to be an easy process, transition, or change.

In Susan Hanshaw’s Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” we can see that she will be coming to grips with Phase 6 concepts:

1. The importance of claiming your new life and how to do it

2. How to break through the insecurities of being new (in your new way of life)

3. How to break through barriers to success (fears, old habits, comfortable associations)

Our Hopes For Change

We are pulling for Heather’s recovery and transformation. Although no location has been released, we are trying to send Heather our work as a token of our support, as a gesture of love, and as a road map of change.


Inner Architect Workshop “Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”: Experience Unlimited Presentation Raises Awareness

In support of people going through life and career transitions, Susan spoke to 55 members of the employment group, Experience Unlimited, in Lafayette, California on June 24, 2008. Her workshop:

Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”

1. Learn how your beliefs play a role in the life you create
2. Create a clear vision of the career you wish to build
3. Identify the beliefs that may be holding you back from building this career
4. Learn the steps for developing a strong belief in yourself
5. Identify things you can do to strengthen your belief and release your obstacles

Value of Susan’s Workshop Style

1. Comfortable Atmosphere: Susan’s presentation style and focus come from her heart. Her desire to help people and her ability to create trust through this genuine communication style, combine to create a uninhibited atmosphere for people to participate and “let their hair down” as one attendee noted.

2. Customized Workshop: Susan adjusts her workshops to what she is able to help attendees get in touch with during the presentation. She encourages input and participation–most important she follows up the ideas that come forth during interaction.

3. Instant Intelligence: by allowing each workshop to follow the attendees challenges, Susan is required to think quickly, think deeply, and provide answers on the spot. Her strength is this ability to adapt without skipping a beat.

Crowd Reaction

During the workshop, Susan was able to entice a number of people to tell their “story”, “fear”, or “challenge” to the group. This open forum style had the attendees sharing, helping, and providing feedback valuable to the entire group.

The most interesting responses:

“I have more control than I thought”
“I didn’t know how to plan for a change until now”
“I guess I get in my own way without realizing it”
“When can I attend another one of your workshops?”

Incredible Debut Book Review: “It is about cutting through the hype and hyperventilation we often use to avoid change”

Author Susan Hanshaw left a successful 20 year corporate career that culminated in a position as Vice President and second in command of her direct marketing firm. During her transition she learned how to step into her current life as author, keynote speaker, and Founder of personal development firm Inner Architect.

The following is a smashing debut review for her latest workInner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live.Reviewer Lori Hoeck of the blog spaceagesage.com succinctly and accurately analyzes Susan’s work; with a honest and impacting style, Hoeck captures the true essence behind this book and the meaningful messages contained within. For further information and to order “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live”

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Lori Hoeck:

“When I started reading Inner Architect by Susan Hanshaw, I was perplexed. Other books I have read on self-help or personal growth immediately delve into meaty matters of mind, body, and soul, such as “Here’s your problem, here’s every reason behind your problem, and here’s the answer to your problem.”

I assumed Hanshaw would follow this pattern in the typical parental or professorial or counselor-type writing style. She does not. After a few more pages, it suddenly struck me. She is writing this so I can be my own life coach! I expected this book to give me just a few new insights here and there. Instead, it gives me the right tools for me to kick my own life into gear.

Her writing style isn’t for the reader to passively ingest words and ideas. Instead:

  • It is about taking action.
  • It is about taking action right now.
  • It is about cutting through the hype and hyperventilation we often use to avoid change.

Her approach challenges the reader to actively progress through change in the form of over 30 fill-in-the-blank exercises. None of the exercises can be completed with superficial thought. For example in the section on Personal Obstacles, one asks, “What frightens you most about making this change?”

Her book is subtitled “How to Build the Life You Were Designed to Live.” Hanshaw uses the metaphors of designing, clearing obstacles for, constructing, and even moving into that life. I liked her stair-step process of beginning from the earliest point of considering a change to embracing, claiming, and enjoying a new life resulting from that change.

As I read more, I could easily imagine a life coach sitting across from me motivating me to think through all the steps. For example, in the finding purpose section, she helps readers find their passion by listing these “Clues:”

  • Activities that cause you to lose track of time
  • Unique talents and characteristics
  • Yearnings and dreams that don’t go away
  • Section in a bookstore you are most drawn to
  • Classes you enjoy taking
  • Complements you often get
  • Roles that you naturally take on with family and friends
  • Someone whose life you admire and wish you could be doing the same

Because of the straight-forward nature of the book and the mental work involved, readers may shy away from this type of life coaching in a book. If, however, you are ready to make changes and need a guidebook to your new life, Inner Architect will get you moving and thinking in more clearly defined, step-by-step, and motivational ways.”

Trusting Your Heart: The Key To Unlocking Purpose

Purpose, your passionate interest(s) that brings joy to you and people around you, is the path to fulfilling your life’s meaning and ultimate value. Unfortunately in most cases, you utilize your analytical mind to make decisions rather than “giving credibility to your feelings and accepting their messages as valid.”

Why is it that most of us think of our hearts as an irresponsible force that is only looking for fun when it is the greatest tool to unlocking purpose?

4 Steps to Trusting Your Heart

1. Acknowledge: that your feelings contain messages. Being unhappy is an idea that begs for change. Your inner feelings, subconscious stream of thought, are always expressing how you really feel about something. Often times these feelings are expressing ideas that you may not yet be willing to accept

2. Credibility: give credibility to your feelings and accept their messages as valid Do you discount your feelings and try to rationalize “why” you feel a certain way?

A good example is boredom. Boredom is a syndrome in someone who is not passionate about their work. Rather than understanding this as a valid sign, people discount this sign and suggest that they may cure this syndrome by finding a new work environment. The same job in a different place is only a short term fix at best. Changing workplace locations or environments is not going to cure the fact that you are bored with the work itself; instead this thinking serves to prolong the syndrome rather than cure it

3. Believe: believe that your heart will lead you to a better way of life than your analytical mind. Recognizing and giving credibility to messages from your heart is a key step to happiness in all areas of your life

4. Act: act upon the messages! If you act upon what you trust then it’s important to make the shift to trusting the messages that come from your heart just like you trust your analytical mind

Third Characteristic That Shapes Our Reality: Maintaining Your Effort

Dictionary is the only place that success comes before work. Hard work is the price we must pay for success. I think you can accomplish anything if you’re willing to pay the price.” Vince Lombardi

Whoever said anybody has a right to give up? Marian Wright Edelman

You began by building your confidence through the accumulation of experience and research. You maintained a constant commitment by action planning and steadfast perseverance. Now is the time to add the fuel to your engine of change: effort.

What is effort? Effort, according to Websters, “is the total work done to achieve a particular end.” Effort is also a “conscious exertion of power. . . or a serious attempt.” Effort makes all the difference in the world.

Your effort, either 110% or less than ideal, is your personal measurement to how well your are performing your tasks in order to change. You can NOT lie to yourself-when you do not give your best effort you know it.

Three Steps To Maintain Your Effort

1. 100% Effort: Always give your maximum effort, your best efforts to your work

2. Quality is Job 1: Do NOT cut corners, speed through without care, or attempt to short change the process. Sloppy work is less than your best effort

3. Recognize Your Value: Recognize that others can benefit by what you have to offer

Second Characteristic That Shapes Our Reality: How To Maintain Your Commitment

Once you have built your confidence and belief in yourself, the next step to shaping your reality is to maintain a high level of commitment toward your vision. Commitment is defined as a “pledge or promise, obligation, engagement or involvement.” It is the glue and strength that holds together an action plan.

Four Steps To Maintaining Your Commitment

1. Key areas for development; break your vision down into areas for development

2. Create step-by-step goals for each area of development. This gives you an instant measurement tool for your progress and a method to chart your time

3. Add Detail to your goals by working through each one step by step

4. Repeat the confidence building ideas above as needed. The process of commitment requires repetition

The 3 Building Blocks To Change Your Life: #2 Your Interests

Is there an activity, hobby, or ritual that brings endless joy to your life?

Do any of these “interests” stand out as special interests or passions that give you such pleasure that you lose track of time when involved in them?

Has a passion been identified by your family or friends as being a special talent you possess?

If you can answer yes to one or all of these questions then you are about to unlock the key building block to change and happiness: your interests and passions

Building Block #2: Interests and Passions

Everyone is special in some way, is unique, and everyone has interests that provide joy. Your interests are hidden tools within your experience that will help you identify the path of change to explore.

Tip: Make a list, with as much detail as possible, identifying your favorite things in life. Identify hobbies, interests, rituals, and anything that fascinates you. Once you have compiled your list, begin to identify and mark the interests that are special to you. These “special interests” or passions are the things most special to you. Now that you have your list of passions begin to explore the possibilities of converting anyone of these passions into a business.

If this sounds too good to be true–it is not. Building block #2 Interests is the most important guide to changing your life forever. Susan Hanshaw’s new book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” identifies the steps you need to take to realize a better life.