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“Brick Walls” Are For Building-Not Obstacles To Impede You From Your Transition

What Is An Obstacle?

The underpinnings and support you build for yourself when you begin to implement change in your life are first challenged and often thwarted by what we perceive as obstacles that get in the way of our transition. If you can become aware of these obstacles, you give yourself the permission to change the meaning of the very obstacle(s) that stand in your way. Begin by redefining the word “obstacle”:

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. . . the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. . . they’re there to stop the ‘other’ people.”

Randy Pausch Carnegie Mellon Professor author of “The Last Lecture”

3 Common Types Of Obstacles

In Susan Hanshaw’s “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” Phase 3 “Breaking Through Fear” contains a very important tool when considering your obstacles: Step 8 “Define What Lies Between You And Change.” Common types of obstacles to change:

1. Fears: Your thoughts about your ability to successfully create change

2. Limited Beliefs: What you think you are capable of acheiveing or becoming

3. Lack of Commitment: Not being completely dedicated to the work involved with the necessary steps

Ultimate Responsibility

Accountability for your actions and efforts is the ultimate responsibility we all have to ourselves.

“We can commit to becoming accountable and responsible to our jobs-careers, to our familiy and friends, yet we often don’t make that same commitment to ourselves.”

Susan Hanshaw Founder Inner Architect and author Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live

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Randy Pausch The Ultimate Inner Architect And “Antidote” Part 1

The answer to the question: If you could have dinner with anyone in history who would you choose just changed for me. My choice would be Randy Pausch; but unfortunately that will not be possible.The Carnegie Mellon Professor, and Author of the remarkable and inspiring book “Last Lecture”, fought to the end but lost his battle with cancer passing away at the age of 47.

Life Pioneer

Randy Paush was a life pioneer, an inner architect of the truest sense, who valued and coveted his time here like nobody I have ever witnessed. You can not help but be touched or greatly effected by Randy Pausch. If you watch his greatest triumph (video below) the last lecture the youtube video of his final lecture “Achieving Your Childhood Dreams” performed September 18, 2007 before a packed house at Carnegie Mellon University, you begin to understand the message: live life, embrace your obstacles, and triumph through your will

Please watch and embrace this video-it will be the best hour you have ever invested!

Golfer John Daly’s Struggle To Become An Inner Architect: Define What Lies Between You And Change-Responsibility


John Daly has long been one of the most talented players on the PGA tour. His accomplishments include being named Rookie of the Year in 1991, winner of the coveted PGA Championship in 1991, and he became the British Open Champion in 1995-his second “Major” title of his career. Along the way John has won a total of 18 Tournaments, 11 Long Drive Contest Titles, and is 84th on the All Time PGA Tour Career Money list accumulating $9,082,342 in winnings.

What’s Not To Love?

John Daly appeals to the “every man” and regular guy. He is not a country club born and bred golfer coddled and nurtured amongst the life of the elite. He does not dress the part nor embrace the part of celebrity athlete. Instead John Daly is a genuine good hearted country boy born in Carmichael, California and raised in Dardanelle, Arkansas. His “rough and tumble” lifestyle, honest self assessment, and ongoing personal battles makes him a touchable and authentic star in a world of eccentric, ego maniacal sociopath-like personalities

Train Wreck or Car Accident?

Since the mid 1990’s John Daly has been living life by the seat of his pants, uncontrollably drinking, partying, and becoming the biggest obstacle in his life. One need only to look at his behavior to wonder is this man an utter train wreck or a major (but fixable) car accident? He has lived through:

1. Claims to have had a habit of drinking a fifth of Jack Daniels whiskey a day at age 23
2. Tossed off a British Airways flight for drunken and disorderly conduct
3. Divorced three times after becoming a tour professional
4. 3 visits to rehab centers including Betty Ford Clinic more to come?

Battle Rages On

John’s continued alcoholism and general abuse continued this week with a new controversy-a public spat with his former swing coach, well respected and superstar coach, Butch Harmon. Harmon “fired” Daly four months ago because Daly could “not clean up his act and show he was rededicated to the game of golf.”

“What Lies Between You And Change”

“I think it’s another case of John never wanting to look in the mirror and ake responsibility for his actions. He’s always looking to blame someone else. . . Until he can blame himself for his shortcomings, he’s always going to have a problem” Butch Harmon to San Francisco Chronicle July 17, 2008

What Can He Do For Himself?

John Daly would greatly benefit from Step #8 of Phase 3 “Define What Lies Between You and Change” in Susan Hanshaw’s “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” Common Types of Obstacles to Change:

1. Fears- The “hidden” pressures a public life places on a famous person may not be available for us to understand. Daly’s own fears may remain within himself yet manifest outwardly through erratic and self destructive behaviors and actions

2. Limited Beliefs- Hanshaw defines this as “What you think you are capable of achieving or becoming” and for Daly this could be a mantra. His own past bad experiences become the deterrent to changing his alcoholic destructive ways, obese eating habits, and horrific public behaviors. He doesn’t believe he deserves any better therefore he becomes his belief system-as do we all!

3. Lack of Commitment- As Butch Harmon’s quote so sadly yet accurately states, John is not taking responsibility for himself, respecting himself, or dedicating himself to the work involved in the necessary steps to changing his beliefs, behaviors, and ultimately his results

Heather Locklear’s Struggle To Become An Inner Architect Of Change: Claiming Your New Life And How To Do It

Heather Locklear was America’s sweetheart at one time in her life. The creator of a superstar career on TV with a long running collaboration with mega TV producer Aaron Spelling, Locklear’s credits include the highly successful Dynasty, TJ Hooker, and super soap Melrose Place. Her popularity was so powerful that Spelling cast her in both TJ Hooker and Dynasty at the same time.

Whether playing a cop, a vixen, or a corporate exec in her role on “Spin City”, Heather seemed at ease with change and adapting to anything thrown at her.

Sadly as recently as March of this year stories began to surface about Locklear’s battle with anxiety and depression.

Culmination of a Battle

Heather recently checked herself into an unnamed Arizona “rehab” center for depression and anxiety. According to sources close to the actress she “requested an in-depth evaluation of her medication and entered into a medical facility for proper diagnosis and treatment.”

“. . . she has had a rough year. . . she decided to heed doctors’ orders and re-evaluate her medical condition at an in-patient treatment facility.”

“She wanted to feel better and get to the bottom of what was troubling her” according to People.com sources

Statement of Support

In the most heartfelt statement of support, former co-star and new boyfriend Jack Wagner:

“Anyone who has the courage to seek help in order to live a healthy life gets my support 110 percent.”

“Considering Change”

In making the decision that she could not live her current life, Heather Locklear began the journey of becoming an inner architect. She applied Susan Hanshaw’s Phase 1’s “Recognize your choices” as her first step to reaching out for help

“Moving into Your New Life”

As Heather heals and begins to step into her new life she will come to the realization that it is not going to be an easy process, transition, or change.

In Susan Hanshaw’s Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” we can see that she will be coming to grips with Phase 6 concepts:

1. The importance of claiming your new life and how to do it

2. How to break through the insecurities of being new (in your new way of life)

3. How to break through barriers to success (fears, old habits, comfortable associations)

Our Hopes For Change

We are pulling for Heather’s recovery and transformation. Although no location has been released, we are trying to send Heather our work as a token of our support, as a gesture of love, and as a road map of change.

“Changing Careers: Laying Your Foundation” Workshop Slated September 6: First In The Series of Inner Architect Workshops

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Event:

“Changing Careers: Laying Your Foundation”

Is your heart calling you to make a career or personal change, yet you lack the structure, focus or support to get started? Whether you know what you want to move into or need guidance getting clarity, this workshop will assist you in stepping onto the new path with the understandings you need to stay the course and build a life you love.

Substance Factor

Whether you know your path or you are looking for a transition, this workshop goes beyond career goals. It is a workshop that will provide the attendee with the following tools from Phase 1 and Phase 2 of Susan Hanshaw’s latest book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” see Tom Royce’s review from his blog therealestatebloggers.com.

What You Will Learn

  • Recognize your choices and identify the choice you want to make
  • Common obstacles to creating work you love and their solutions
  • Identify your personal obstacles and define their solutions
  • Understand your beliefs about your future possibilities and make necessary adjustment
  • Create a vision of your best life possible
  • Learn the key to fulfilling work
  • 5 steps to discovering your purpose
  • Where to look for clues about your passions and purpose
  • Recognize clues to your unique purpose
  • Identify ways to express your purpose and generate income
  • Recognize which role excites you the most
  • 6 steps for experimenting with your role

Logistics

Date: Saturday, Sept 6, 2008

Time: 10am – 4pm

Location: The beautiful Quadrus Center in Menlo Park, CA

Prices: TBA

Inner Architect Workshop “Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”: Experience Unlimited Presentation Raises Awareness

In support of people going through life and career transitions, Susan spoke to 55 members of the employment group, Experience Unlimited, in Lafayette, California on June 24, 2008. Her workshop:

Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”

1. Learn how your beliefs play a role in the life you create
2. Create a clear vision of the career you wish to build
3. Identify the beliefs that may be holding you back from building this career
4. Learn the steps for developing a strong belief in yourself
5. Identify things you can do to strengthen your belief and release your obstacles

Value of Susan’s Workshop Style

1. Comfortable Atmosphere: Susan’s presentation style and focus come from her heart. Her desire to help people and her ability to create trust through this genuine communication style, combine to create a uninhibited atmosphere for people to participate and “let their hair down” as one attendee noted.

2. Customized Workshop: Susan adjusts her workshops to what she is able to help attendees get in touch with during the presentation. She encourages input and participation–most important she follows up the ideas that come forth during interaction.

3. Instant Intelligence: by allowing each workshop to follow the attendees challenges, Susan is required to think quickly, think deeply, and provide answers on the spot. Her strength is this ability to adapt without skipping a beat.

Crowd Reaction

During the workshop, Susan was able to entice a number of people to tell their “story”, “fear”, or “challenge” to the group. This open forum style had the attendees sharing, helping, and providing feedback valuable to the entire group.

The most interesting responses:

“I have more control than I thought”
“I didn’t know how to plan for a change until now”
“I guess I get in my own way without realizing it”
“When can I attend another one of your workshops?”

Inner Architect Receives Second Smash Book Review: “The Framework To Lead You-The Questions To Dig Into Your Motivations And Fears”

Tom Royce one of the most influential bloggers, a real estate niche dynamo, understands the importance of transition and change. He is an expert in the field of real estate and he has seen many of his peers and readers suffer through tough times in recent months.

Therefore it is unquestionably gratifying to read therealestatebloggers.com’s Tom Royce book review and assessment of author Susan Hanshaw’s latest work “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live.”

Excerpts With Meaning

“Susan addresses this transition ( reassessing career goals and aspirations) throughout The Inner Architect. The theme is to find what you love to do and develop the strength and skills to achieve this transition. Instead of just hoping that it works out, one needs to develop the skill set to make the transition successfully.”

” Susan leads you through addressing the root cause of your fears while giving you the blueprint to leave them behind.”

“Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” is a primer on how to transition from a career that you are finished with to one that you love.”