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Golfer John Daly’s Struggle To Become An Inner Architect: Define What Lies Between You And Change-Responsibility

John Daly has long been one of the most talented players on the PGA tour. His accomplishments include being named Rookie of the Year in 1991, winner of the coveted PGA Championship in 1991, and he became the British Open Champion in 1995-his second “Major” title of his career. Along the way John has won a total of 18 Tournaments, 11 Long Drive Contest Titles, and is 84th on the All Time PGA Tour Career Money list accumulating $9,082,342 in winnings.

What’s Not To Love?

John Daly appeals to the “every man” and regular guy. He is not a country club born and bred golfer coddled and nurtured amongst the life of the elite. He does not dress the part nor embrace the part of celebrity athlete. Instead John Daly is a genuine good hearted country boy born in Carmichael, California and raised in Dardanelle, Arkansas. His “rough and tumble” lifestyle, honest self assessment, and ongoing personal battles makes him a touchable and authentic star in a world of eccentric, ego maniacal sociopath-like personalities

Train Wreck or Car Accident?

Since the mid 1990’s John Daly has been living life by the seat of his pants, uncontrollably drinking, partying, and becoming the biggest obstacle in his life. One need only to look at his behavior to wonder is this man an utter train wreck or a major (but fixable) car accident? He has lived through:

1. Claims to have had a habit of drinking a fifth of Jack Daniels whiskey a day at age 23
2. Tossed off a British Airways flight for drunken and disorderly conduct
3. Divorced three times after becoming a tour professional
4. 3 visits to rehab centers including Betty Ford Clinic more to come?

Battle Rages On

John’s continued alcoholism and general abuse continued this week with a new controversy-a public spat with his former swing coach, well respected and superstar coach, Butch Harmon. Harmon “fired” Daly four months ago because Daly could “not clean up his act and show he was rededicated to the game of golf.”

“What Lies Between You And Change”

“I think it’s another case of John never wanting to look in the mirror and ake responsibility for his actions. He’s always looking to blame someone else. . . Until he can blame himself for his shortcomings, he’s always going to have a problem” Butch Harmon to San Francisco Chronicle July 17, 2008

What Can He Do For Himself?

John Daly would greatly benefit from Step #8 of Phase 3 “Define What Lies Between You and Change” in Susan Hanshaw’s “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” Common Types of Obstacles to Change:

1. Fears- The “hidden” pressures a public life places on a famous person may not be available for us to understand. Daly’s own fears may remain within himself yet manifest outwardly through erratic and self destructive behaviors and actions

2. Limited Beliefs- Hanshaw defines this as “What you think you are capable of achieving or becoming” and for Daly this could be a mantra. His own past bad experiences become the deterrent to changing his alcoholic destructive ways, obese eating habits, and horrific public behaviors. He doesn’t believe he deserves any better therefore he becomes his belief system-as do we all!

3. Lack of Commitment- As Butch Harmon’s quote so sadly yet accurately states, John is not taking responsibility for himself, respecting himself, or dedicating himself to the work involved in the necessary steps to changing his beliefs, behaviors, and ultimately his results


Inner Architect Workshop “Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”: Experience Unlimited Presentation Raises Awareness

In support of people going through life and career transitions, Susan spoke to 55 members of the employment group, Experience Unlimited, in Lafayette, California on June 24, 2008. Her workshop:

Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”

1. Learn how your beliefs play a role in the life you create
2. Create a clear vision of the career you wish to build
3. Identify the beliefs that may be holding you back from building this career
4. Learn the steps for developing a strong belief in yourself
5. Identify things you can do to strengthen your belief and release your obstacles

Value of Susan’s Workshop Style

1. Comfortable Atmosphere: Susan’s presentation style and focus come from her heart. Her desire to help people and her ability to create trust through this genuine communication style, combine to create a uninhibited atmosphere for people to participate and “let their hair down” as one attendee noted.

2. Customized Workshop: Susan adjusts her workshops to what she is able to help attendees get in touch with during the presentation. She encourages input and participation–most important she follows up the ideas that come forth during interaction.

3. Instant Intelligence: by allowing each workshop to follow the attendees challenges, Susan is required to think quickly, think deeply, and provide answers on the spot. Her strength is this ability to adapt without skipping a beat.

Crowd Reaction

During the workshop, Susan was able to entice a number of people to tell their “story”, “fear”, or “challenge” to the group. This open forum style had the attendees sharing, helping, and providing feedback valuable to the entire group.

The most interesting responses:

“I have more control than I thought”
“I didn’t know how to plan for a change until now”
“I guess I get in my own way without realizing it”
“When can I attend another one of your workshops?”

Transition, Belief, A New Life: Susan Hanshaw’s “Secret To Sucess” Workshop A Difference Maker To Attendees

As the Business Director for Inner Architect, Inner Architect Media, and author Susan Hanshaw it is my role to help raise awareness of Susan’s new book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live”, her personal development firm Inner Architect, and her upcoming events.

In support of her book and our community, Susan is performing pro-bono workshops for non profit groups, charities, and many employment organizations.

One of the most fulfilling experiences for Susan happened when she presented her workshop “The Secret To Success” June 20 for a group of 60 women at Job Train a Menlo Park based organization. From comments of support to kind words of thanks, many hearts were touched that morning.

One attendee’s comments stood out for me. She wanted us to know that we made her aware of her own choices, her own power, and her own responsibility to herself- “Susan made a big difference for me.  .  .  I didn’t get how much control I really have”

In her own words. . .

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I had one of my most fulfilling experiences on Friday June 20 when I was invited to speak at a nonprofit organization whose mission is to help those who are most in need to succeed. Sixty women who are enrolled in various vocational job training programs attended my workshop, “The Secret to Success”. Why was it so fulfilling? Because for at least our 90 minutes together, my ideas made a difference.

The breakthrough lesson was how our beliefs are all that holds us back from taking the steps to succeed. We did an exercise that first asked them to write answers to the following:

  • What fears do you have about your job future?
  • What ideas are limiting what you think you can achieve or become in your life?
  • What is holding you back from believing you can stay dedicated to doing the necessary work?

In the second part of the exercise, I asked them to go back and write down what new ideas they could replace the ones above with that would support them in taking action. After a few minutes, several shared how writing their thoughts down enabled them to get clarity they’d never had before.

We can help ourselves break through all our obstacles if only we look closely enough to see what they are.

Try the exercise yourself and see what you might learn.