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“Brick Walls” Are For Building-Not Obstacles To Impede You From Your Transition

What Is An Obstacle?

The underpinnings and support you build for yourself when you begin to implement change in your life are first challenged and often thwarted by what we perceive as obstacles that get in the way of our transition. If you can become aware of these obstacles, you give yourself the permission to change the meaning of the very obstacle(s) that stand in your way. Begin by redefining the word “obstacle”:

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. . . the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. . . they’re there to stop the ‘other’ people.”

Randy Pausch Carnegie Mellon Professor author of “The Last Lecture”

3 Common Types Of Obstacles

In Susan Hanshaw’s “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” Phase 3 “Breaking Through Fear” contains a very important tool when considering your obstacles: Step 8 “Define What Lies Between You And Change.” Common types of obstacles to change:

1. Fears: Your thoughts about your ability to successfully create change

2. Limited Beliefs: What you think you are capable of acheiveing or becoming

3. Lack of Commitment: Not being completely dedicated to the work involved with the necessary steps

Ultimate Responsibility

Accountability for your actions and efforts is the ultimate responsibility we all have to ourselves.

“We can commit to becoming accountable and responsible to our jobs-careers, to our familiy and friends, yet we often don’t make that same commitment to ourselves.”

Susan Hanshaw Founder Inner Architect and author Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live

Transition, Belief, A New Life: Susan Hanshaw’s “Secret To Sucess” Workshop A Difference Maker To Attendees

As the Business Director for Inner Architect, Inner Architect Media, and author Susan Hanshaw it is my role to help raise awareness of Susan’s new book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live”, her personal development firm Inner Architect, and her upcoming events.

In support of her book and our community, Susan is performing pro-bono workshops for non profit groups, charities, and many employment organizations.

One of the most fulfilling experiences for Susan happened when she presented her workshop “The Secret To Success” June 20 for a group of 60 women at Job Train a Menlo Park based organization. From comments of support to kind words of thanks, many hearts were touched that morning.

One attendee’s comments stood out for me. She wanted us to know that we made her aware of her own choices, her own power, and her own responsibility to herself- “Susan made a big difference for me.  .  .  I didn’t get how much control I really have”

In her own words. . .

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I had one of my most fulfilling experiences on Friday June 20 when I was invited to speak at a nonprofit organization whose mission is to help those who are most in need to succeed. Sixty women who are enrolled in various vocational job training programs attended my workshop, “The Secret to Success”. Why was it so fulfilling? Because for at least our 90 minutes together, my ideas made a difference.

The breakthrough lesson was how our beliefs are all that holds us back from taking the steps to succeed. We did an exercise that first asked them to write answers to the following:

  • What fears do you have about your job future?
  • What ideas are limiting what you think you can achieve or become in your life?
  • What is holding you back from believing you can stay dedicated to doing the necessary work?

In the second part of the exercise, I asked them to go back and write down what new ideas they could replace the ones above with that would support them in taking action. After a few minutes, several shared how writing their thoughts down enabled them to get clarity they’d never had before.

We can help ourselves break through all our obstacles if only we look closely enough to see what they are.

Try the exercise yourself and see what you might learn.

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Trusting Your Heart: The Key To Unlocking Purpose

Purpose, your passionate interest(s) that brings joy to you and people around you, is the path to fulfilling your life’s meaning and ultimate value. Unfortunately in most cases, you utilize your analytical mind to make decisions rather than “giving credibility to your feelings and accepting their messages as valid.”

Why is it that most of us think of our hearts as an irresponsible force that is only looking for fun when it is the greatest tool to unlocking purpose?

4 Steps to Trusting Your Heart

1. Acknowledge: that your feelings contain messages. Being unhappy is an idea that begs for change. Your inner feelings, subconscious stream of thought, are always expressing how you really feel about something. Often times these feelings are expressing ideas that you may not yet be willing to accept

2. Credibility: give credibility to your feelings and accept their messages as valid Do you discount your feelings and try to rationalize “why” you feel a certain way?

A good example is boredom. Boredom is a syndrome in someone who is not passionate about their work. Rather than understanding this as a valid sign, people discount this sign and suggest that they may cure this syndrome by finding a new work environment. The same job in a different place is only a short term fix at best. Changing workplace locations or environments is not going to cure the fact that you are bored with the work itself; instead this thinking serves to prolong the syndrome rather than cure it

3. Believe: believe that your heart will lead you to a better way of life than your analytical mind. Recognizing and giving credibility to messages from your heart is a key step to happiness in all areas of your life

4. Act: act upon the messages! If you act upon what you trust then it’s important to make the shift to trusting the messages that come from your heart just like you trust your analytical mind

Discovering Your Passions: The Secret Of “Purpose” And The Role It Plays In Your Life

What is purpose and what is it’s role in a person’s life? Purpose is that “unique” something that each person has to offer,that will help benefit other people, during their lifetime. Our passionate interests are closely connected to our purpose. Unfortunately many people settle working in a career or living a life that is less than fulfilling or outright distasteful.

What is missing? Often the answer is the feeling that your life has no meaning or significance because you are not “giving back” and you are not feeling the excitement of passionate interest.

Mindset of Purpose: Understanding The Shift

*In order to live fully in your purpose, you must learn to perceive yourself and your significance in this world from a mindset of purpose. Are you utilizing your “gifts”? Are you helping people with your gifts? Do you feel that you make a difference in people’s lives through your passionate interests?

*The Shift requires you to change your perspective to a deeper level. Simply put recognizing purpose is a part of life that requires you to believe that there is more going on than what you can see on the surface

*Few people understand that the work that you love is the work you are really here, in this life on this planet, to do.

A Plan Of Action Building Block #3: Help Is On The Way

“Action speaks louder than words”
“Fail to plan, plan to fail”
“He/She is all talk”

These phrases are three common American colloquialisms that we have all heard or experienced at one time or another. Yet how often do people forget, ignore, or skip creating a plan of action when attempting to change anything?

In the first two articles in this series we identified awareness and interests as the first steps necessary for you to begin the process of changing your life.

What’s Stopping You?

Ask yourself the reason why you are not creating an action plan and the answers, if you are honest, may surprise you:

1. Spontaneity- thinking you are better off being spontaneous and allowing things to happen is the fastest method to getting no where near your goal to change your life

2. Structure is Confining-the belief that you do not need an outlined road map (plan) because it may restrict the “discovery” process and ultimately your progress, is faulty thinking. Without a plan of action, you will hinder your ability to change, leave yourself without a tool to measure your progress on your new path, and set yourself up for colloquialism #2 “Fail to plan, plan to fail.”

3. How to Plan-most people do not understand the most effective method of producing a plan of action. That is not a problem as long as you realize that you may need help in this process.

Where Do I Find Assistance?

If you feel the need for assistance in planning your course of action consider Susan Hanshaw’s “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” as a stepping stone to a new life.

If you want more hands on guidance, evaluation, training, planning, and mapping in order to build the life you want to lead consider Susan Hanshaw’s Inner Architect Personal Training Membership.

The IA Personal Training program is near completion it will be a combination of online and real world applications, one on one training, group interaction webinars or teleconferences, and continued educational videos and modules exclusive to members.

The 3 Building Blocks To Change Your Life: #2 Your Interests

Is there an activity, hobby, or ritual that brings endless joy to your life?

Do any of these “interests” stand out as special interests or passions that give you such pleasure that you lose track of time when involved in them?

Has a passion been identified by your family or friends as being a special talent you possess?

If you can answer yes to one or all of these questions then you are about to unlock the key building block to change and happiness: your interests and passions

Building Block #2: Interests and Passions

Everyone is special in some way, is unique, and everyone has interests that provide joy. Your interests are hidden tools within your experience that will help you identify the path of change to explore.

Tip: Make a list, with as much detail as possible, identifying your favorite things in life. Identify hobbies, interests, rituals, and anything that fascinates you. Once you have compiled your list, begin to identify and mark the interests that are special to you. These “special interests” or passions are the things most special to you. Now that you have your list of passions begin to explore the possibilities of converting anyone of these passions into a business.

If this sounds too good to be true–it is not. Building block #2 Interests is the most important guide to changing your life forever. Susan Hanshaw’s new book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” identifies the steps you need to take to realize a better life.

The 3 Building Blocks To Change Your Life: Awareness, Interests, Action

Do you wake up in the morning like a sailor set adrift in open seas after a terrible wreck?
Do you feel stranded by your job or career left only to count the days until the weekend?
Are your weekends like tiny islands of comfort helping you forget your unhappiness?
And when your tiny “vacation” (the weekend) is over and it is late Sunday afternoon, are you already dreading the idea of going back to your job?

If you can answer yes to one or all of these questions you are ready to change your life.

Building Block #1: Awareness

Recognizing that your unsatisfying, dismal, and uncomfortable job is the core problem in your life is the first building block to change. Your awareness that your job is the source of stress, anger, anguish, anxiety, angst, pressure, unhappiness, discomfort, frustration, and malaise is the most important fact to begin your change.

The byproduct of these horrible feelings often leads to giving up, going through the motions, feelings of inadequacy, lack of trust, cynicism, doubt, and self hatred in some cases.

If you can be honest with yourself and utilize your awareness that you need change, you are on the path to discovering the steps that will give you back your hope, your life, and your happiness.

If this sounds too good to be true–it is not. If you want a new life, Susan Hanshaw’s upcoming book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” is your first step.