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Finding Guidance: Clues In The Midst Of Everyday Life

I have just returned from BookExpo America (BEA), the book industry’s annual event held this year at the Los Angeles Convention Center, where I went to promote the debut of my book, Inner Architect: How to Build the Life You Were Designed to Live. I expected the experience to be one of value, learning, and building relationships. What I didn’t expect was to discover what occurred to me while I mentally noted the highlights of the event during our final day. As I focused on these highlights, I saw a common thread that weaved throughout the launch of my book that would have totally bypassed my consciousness had I not stopped to casually review. I believe this common thread provides a direction for me that I would not have taken seriously had the energy of life not have shoved it in my face.

I’d like to share my clues and my perception of the guidance they provide, and then invite you to look at recent, or not so recent, events in your life where there might be direction sitting there for you.

Clue #1: My company, inner architect, published the book using a standard off-set printer who specializes in the book industry. Upon our request for production samples, the printer we ultimately chose sent us two books published by Hay House. I didn’t think anything more about this at the time than the printer wanted to promote that they had a well known, prestigious client.

Clue #2: Louise Hay author and founder of Hay House, happened to be autographing books in the Hay House booth at BEA while my partner, Dean and I walked by. Dean took my bashful arm and led me to stand next to him in the line to meet Louise. When it was our turn to greet her, Dean introduced me and thanked her for the inspiration she provided to us to launch our publishing company. Once again, I didn’t take this for anything more than shear luck of being in the right place at the right time to meet Louise Hay, a woman I respect and honor for her contribution to the human development movement.

Clue #3: Later that day at BEA we stopped to talk with a man promoting international distribution services. We proudly showed him our new book and he responded with a comment about it being along the lines of what Hay House publishes. He went on to tell us that a company that had recently lost the Hay House account would likely welcome something to replace it. I felt encouraged by his comment, yet didn’t see the meaning in this exchange until I put all three of these clues together.

My interpretation of these clues: I was led to look at a woman who I deeply admire as a model for my own work in a way that I had never considered on my own.

What to take away from my experience:

  1. Look at the events that unfold in your life as having meaningful messages for you.
  2. Take the messages that you interpret seriously, even if they seem grander than visions you’ve created for yourself.
  3. Trust that these messages are meant to lead you in the direction where you will find the most fulfillment.
  4. Believe that you are capable in carrying out these messages and commit to doing the steps that will see it through.
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Second Characteristic That Shapes Our Reality: How To Maintain Your Commitment

Once you have built your confidence and belief in yourself, the next step to shaping your reality is to maintain a high level of commitment toward your vision. Commitment is defined as a “pledge or promise, obligation, engagement or involvement.” It is the glue and strength that holds together an action plan.

Four Steps To Maintaining Your Commitment

1. Key areas for development; break your vision down into areas for development

2. Create step-by-step goals for each area of development. This gives you an instant measurement tool for your progress and a method to chart your time

3. Add Detail to your goals by working through each one step by step

4. Repeat the confidence building ideas above as needed. The process of commitment requires repetition

First Characteristic That Shapes Our Reality: How To Build Your Confidence

If you believe that believing in yourself is a choice then you must understand how to begin the process. The first characteristic that shapes our reality is our self confidence. But how do you feel confident when you have never done something that feels so difficult like making a life change?

How Do I Build My Confidence?

1. Increase Your Knowledge and Expertise:

Take classes at a junior college, adult education curriculum, or hire a specific expert
Read books, periodicals, online sources to supplement your base of knowledge
Understand that being an “expert” is defined by Websters as “skill or knowledge representing mastery of a particular subject.” You do not have to be a Ph.d; life experience and a willingness to learn will help you become an expert

2. Practice Your Craft:

Repetition and critiquing your performances are the mainstays of any effort to improve. By seriously practicing, being mindful of quality, and relentlessly striving to improve you will become an expert and build your confidence in the process

3. Offer Your Work For Free:

Give free workshops, tutoring, mentoring, or offer your resources to businesses. The key to offering your work for free is the priceless feedback and experience you gain from this activity

4. Find a Mentor:

Look for someone who is successful in your niche. Surround yourself with positive people. Allow their positive habits to rub off on you. Make the commitment to expand your base of friends and acquintances

The 3 Building Blocks To Change Your Life: #2 Your Interests

Is there an activity, hobby, or ritual that brings endless joy to your life?

Do any of these “interests” stand out as special interests or passions that give you such pleasure that you lose track of time when involved in them?

Has a passion been identified by your family or friends as being a special talent you possess?

If you can answer yes to one or all of these questions then you are about to unlock the key building block to change and happiness: your interests and passions

Building Block #2: Interests and Passions

Everyone is special in some way, is unique, and everyone has interests that provide joy. Your interests are hidden tools within your experience that will help you identify the path of change to explore.

Tip: Make a list, with as much detail as possible, identifying your favorite things in life. Identify hobbies, interests, rituals, and anything that fascinates you. Once you have compiled your list, begin to identify and mark the interests that are special to you. These “special interests” or passions are the things most special to you. Now that you have your list of passions begin to explore the possibilities of converting anyone of these passions into a business.

If this sounds too good to be true–it is not. Building block #2 Interests is the most important guide to changing your life forever. Susan Hanshaw’s new book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” identifies the steps you need to take to realize a better life.

Becoming An Inner Architect Tutorial #2: “The First 3 Choices of Change”

You Always Have Choices

According to Susan Hanshaw, author of the new book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed to Live”, one of the most difficult ideas for people to understand and comprehend in order to take action is the idea of choice. For choice is the precursor to change, and as we can attest, sometimes change can be difficult even painful. If you are feeling stuck, if you are feeling lost, or if you are feeling your career has lost meaning, it is time to focus on the answer:

The First 3 Choices of Change:

1. Option #1: Keep everything Status Quo. Take no action and feel no differently

2. Option #2: Make an adjustment somewhere in an effort to influence positive change

3. Option #3: Let go of your job and find something that fits you better

Susan Hanshaw’s video, #2 in the series “Becoming an inner architect”, supports the idea of choice and the options of choice you now face. These concepts and steps were derived from Chapter 1 “Cultivating Your Mind To Consider Change.”

 

For details on Susan Hanshaw’s book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live”, instructions on how to receive a free copy of Chapter 1 “Cultivation Your Mind To Consider Change”, and details about “The Apprentice Contest” reference “Inner Architect’s “How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live”: New Video Series, Contest, Book.

Free Book Chapter Offer:Take Your First Step To Change

We at inner architect are publishing a book, a life manual, “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” devoted to helping people become aware of their challenges, find the courage to confront the idea of change, and take the final step by implementing an intentional plan of action.

“The Apprentice Contest” is a first step in giving people the opportunity to review Chapters 1 now and Chapter 2 of “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” in the future.

The Benefits of Ordering Your Free Copy of Chapter 1

1. Chapter 1 “Cultivating Your Mind to Consider Change” helps readers learn:

a. To identify clues that tell you if your job is no longer working for you
b. Get clarity about how well your job is working for you
c. Understand what this means to you personally
d. Recognize what your choices are
e. Identify which choice you really want to make
f. How prepared you are to make a change
g. Your personal steps needed to prepare you to create your change

Susan provides guidance through steps, questions, and measuring tools (reader exercises) which provide the foundation for you to honestly evaluate your situation.

More importantly, Susan has lived and walked this path of change in her life. She abandoned a very successful 20 year direct marketing career as a Vice President to create a better life.

Woven throughout the book are her personal accounts and struggles of leaving a career that no longer fit her life. In addition to Susan’s story, she fortifies the book with stories from former coaching clients, students of her workshops, friends, and family. This collage paints a truth for many readers who can not help but identify, me included, with many of the scenarios in the book.

Final Analysis: Chapter 1 “Cultivating Your Mind to Consider Change” helps you understand the value of an open mind aka awareness, provide tools to measure where you stand in your beliefs and attitudes toward change, illustrates a methodical process of steps to implement to reach your goals and intended outcomes.

Truly consider Susan’s story, participate in the exercises, and consider where you stand. If you have experiences or thoughts please share them by joining “The Apprentice Contest” featured in our next article.