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Job Layoffs and their Hidden Benefits

Being in between jobs doesn’t have to be experienced like the kiss of death. I know that it is natural to feel very vulnerable, yet that is what being in transition is all about. It’s the very point that you are temporarily unattached to a job that provides you with a rare freedom to ask yourself what you really want from your next adventure.

Key questions to ask yourself in between jobs:

1. How soon do I really have to land a job?

Can you afford some time to step back and evaluate what you really want from your career while you have the freedom and time to prepare yourself for it? Sure, it’s no fun watching your life savings take a downward climb, but is your time here really about the money?

Are you at a point in your life where you can afford to spend some time being selective about your next step or preparing yourself for a new path? Think of your career choices now as investments in your quality of life.

2: Would the jobs you are now searching for be top choices if you were just starting out?

You spend a majority of your waking hours at your job. Consider it like you would a romantic relationship. Are you willing to settle for second best just to be committed?

3: Is it possible to support yourself financially doing what you love?

Make a list of all the different ways you can generate income by doing what you love. Your financial support does not have to come from one income stream. Maybe one single role can’t generate enough money, but adding other roles that express your passions might make the necessary difference.

4. Are credentials getting in your way of going for jobs you really want?

Ask yourself if you are truly lacking what is necessary, or if credentials are a convenient excuse to protect you from risk or rejection. Research the kinds of credentials that others doing similar work have. If you don’t have what it takes, identify sources that can provide the appropriate credentials. Don’t make assumptions without checking the facts about the true requirements to do the work.

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“Brick Walls” Are For Building-Not Obstacles To Impede You From Your Transition

What Is An Obstacle?

The underpinnings and support you build for yourself when you begin to implement change in your life are first challenged and often thwarted by what we perceive as obstacles that get in the way of our transition. If you can become aware of these obstacles, you give yourself the permission to change the meaning of the very obstacle(s) that stand in your way. Begin by redefining the word “obstacle”:

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. . . the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. . . they’re there to stop the ‘other’ people.”

Randy Pausch Carnegie Mellon Professor author of “The Last Lecture”

3 Common Types Of Obstacles

In Susan Hanshaw’s “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” Phase 3 “Breaking Through Fear” contains a very important tool when considering your obstacles: Step 8 “Define What Lies Between You And Change.” Common types of obstacles to change:

1. Fears: Your thoughts about your ability to successfully create change

2. Limited Beliefs: What you think you are capable of acheiveing or becoming

3. Lack of Commitment: Not being completely dedicated to the work involved with the necessary steps

Ultimate Responsibility

Accountability for your actions and efforts is the ultimate responsibility we all have to ourselves.

“We can commit to becoming accountable and responsible to our jobs-careers, to our familiy and friends, yet we often don’t make that same commitment to ourselves.”

Susan Hanshaw Founder Inner Architect and author Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live

Inner Architect Workshop “Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”: Experience Unlimited Presentation Raises Awareness

In support of people going through life and career transitions, Susan spoke to 55 members of the employment group, Experience Unlimited, in Lafayette, California on June 24, 2008. Her workshop:

Transition: An Opportunity To Renew Your Possibilities”

1. Learn how your beliefs play a role in the life you create
2. Create a clear vision of the career you wish to build
3. Identify the beliefs that may be holding you back from building this career
4. Learn the steps for developing a strong belief in yourself
5. Identify things you can do to strengthen your belief and release your obstacles

Value of Susan’s Workshop Style

1. Comfortable Atmosphere: Susan’s presentation style and focus come from her heart. Her desire to help people and her ability to create trust through this genuine communication style, combine to create a uninhibited atmosphere for people to participate and “let their hair down” as one attendee noted.

2. Customized Workshop: Susan adjusts her workshops to what she is able to help attendees get in touch with during the presentation. She encourages input and participation–most important she follows up the ideas that come forth during interaction.

3. Instant Intelligence: by allowing each workshop to follow the attendees challenges, Susan is required to think quickly, think deeply, and provide answers on the spot. Her strength is this ability to adapt without skipping a beat.

Crowd Reaction

During the workshop, Susan was able to entice a number of people to tell their “story”, “fear”, or “challenge” to the group. This open forum style had the attendees sharing, helping, and providing feedback valuable to the entire group.

The most interesting responses:

“I have more control than I thought”
“I didn’t know how to plan for a change until now”
“I guess I get in my own way without realizing it”
“When can I attend another one of your workshops?”

Believing In Yourself Is A Choice: The Four Characteristics That Shape Our Reality

“We have nothing to fear but fear itself” Franklin Delano Roosevelt

“An unpleasant and often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger. . . Fear is completely natural and helps people to recognize and respond to dangerous situations and threats. However, healthy fear–or fear which has a protective function–can evolve into unhealthy or pathological fear.” Phil Barker Conflict Research Consortium

Fear is a powerful choice we make everyday without recognizing the detrimental effects this “habit” brings to our lives. In order to break the cycle of fear, you must first believe in yourself, in your abilities, and you must believe unconditionally.

Believing in “you” is a powerful choice. It is a choice that provides strength. Believing in yourself is the first step to freedom and the beginning of an action plan to remove the obstacles we place in front of ourselves everyday.

How Do I Begin To Believe?

Your choice to believe in yourself is shown through four characteristics. Read each characteristic and honestly access your level or capacity for each one.

1. Confidence: In your abilities to fulfill your vision

2. Commitment: Performing the necessary work to make your vision a reality

3. Effort: Striving to create your best work

4. Perseverance: dogged “stick to it” mentality throughout the process

Fall seven times, stand up eight. ~Japanese Proverb

The 3 Building Blocks To Change Your Life: Awareness, Interests, Action

Do you wake up in the morning like a sailor set adrift in open seas after a terrible wreck?
Do you feel stranded by your job or career left only to count the days until the weekend?
Are your weekends like tiny islands of comfort helping you forget your unhappiness?
And when your tiny “vacation” (the weekend) is over and it is late Sunday afternoon, are you already dreading the idea of going back to your job?

If you can answer yes to one or all of these questions you are ready to change your life.

Building Block #1: Awareness

Recognizing that your unsatisfying, dismal, and uncomfortable job is the core problem in your life is the first building block to change. Your awareness that your job is the source of stress, anger, anguish, anxiety, angst, pressure, unhappiness, discomfort, frustration, and malaise is the most important fact to begin your change.

The byproduct of these horrible feelings often leads to giving up, going through the motions, feelings of inadequacy, lack of trust, cynicism, doubt, and self hatred in some cases.

If you can be honest with yourself and utilize your awareness that you need change, you are on the path to discovering the steps that will give you back your hope, your life, and your happiness.

If this sounds too good to be true–it is not. If you want a new life, Susan Hanshaw’s upcoming book “Inner Architect: How To Build The Life You Were Designed To Live” is your first step.

The Decision Crisis: Follow Your Interests And Passions

Everyone faces decisions and in many cases we fall into a decision crisis: a place where we are unable to make an important decision. In some cases these crisis can last a lifetime. The effects are often detrimental.

A good example of an area where decisions can be life changing is your career path.

What about the decision crisis that faces every student? Your decision making process for identifying the right career path is more important than many decisions you will have to make. Unfortunately this process often begins in the middle rather than the beginning. Simply put, many students and parents look at job markets, financial compensation, and job availability as the deciding factors on a career (major) path.

The First Step in the Decision Making Process

Before you consult the traditional counselors, career and interest surveys, and company representatives recruiting on campus consider the following:

1. Awareness: You will graduate to the workforce via corporate America or as an entrepreneur with a work life history that will span on average 40+ years.

2. Interest: The career path you pursue should be one that holds your interest. It is imperative that you identify all your interests. Make a detailed list of the things, activities, and rituals you enjoy. This should help to heighten your awareness about what direction to take.

3. Passion: After identifying your interests, which ones are your passions? Which activity, subject, or ritual do you just love? Make a list of these “special” interests and consider them your detailed list moving forward.

Discovering the correct career path (major) should start with the awareness that you will be spending the majority of your waking hours working. With this awareness you can then understand how important it is to find a career that you have interest and passion for in abundance.

This example can be applied to most any important decision facing individuals today. Remember to recognize your interest and passion in the decision you are about to make.

A “License To Print Money”: Misconceptions About Money And How To Change Your Beliefs

“Instead of thinking that you need money, realize that money needs YOU. Money is just so much wasted energy without work to do. Your ideas provide the outlet for it, the means by which money can do things. Develop your ideas, secure in the knowledge that money is always looking for such an outlet. When the ideas are perfected, money will gravitate your way without conscious effort on your part, if only you don’t dam up the channels with doubts and fears. . . . Realize that it is not money you have to seek, but a way to use money for the world’s advantage. Find the need!” — Robert Collier

“Money doesn’t grow on trees” –A Well Meaning Mother

One of the most common misconceptions about money is that there is a limited supply of money available to each person during their lifetime.

This misconception often leads people to make decisions based in fear and not fact. The idea that there is a limit to the supply of money is completely false.

There is a limitless supply of money available to everyone–that is a fact. If people are aware of this fact, if they understand that they can change their own erroneous beliefs about money, and if each individual invests time to create a vision and intended plan of action then the misconception about money’s limited supply becomes obsolete.

The next time you believe you are “a day late and a dollar short”
The next time you think “money doesn’t grow on trees”
Or you think that “a fool and his money are soon parted”
Take heart because with a limitless supply of money available we all “have a license to print money.”